Sandi, I feel for you, considering you were there to do some legitimate communication regarding thanks you had for something Gillian was actually specifically aware of, unlike those described, as I am reading in this thread, so daft, so inconsiderate, yes, self centered, and appalling to even consider such a mob of excitable and despot inhumanitaristic persons as fellow Philes.
Agreed, that makes things much more difficult for sincere communications in the future for those such as you, and quite a bit of anxiety, specifically, for the anxious, truthfully crowd shy Gillian.
And, adding to what Avi stated, there does seem to be, perhaps in a general tendency of groups being fans of a person or concept, to mostly inadvertently, remove from that person or concept the very respect we would give those we know directly or ourselves.
In truth, it seems, from the behavior remarked about, that Gillian, even by those so designated to be supposedly other in this view, has been rather heinously objectified by some of her fans, where she has to endure what she did, and she did as best as can be expected.
Partially, I think some of the comedic verbal play and banter, on various subjects regarding Gillian, and perhaps others related to the show, which is a partial behavior of objectfying and grand assumption at the very least, and generalized so profoundly that these jokes may be broadened by some into a passive aggressive disrespect instead.
Essentially, a joke, similar to a tabloid story, makes us feel ourselves superior to an individual in the media, and, perhaps without knowing, until we are allowed to meet this person, do we find ourselves hitting them over the head with a theatre flyer for their specific attention for their autograph?
Perhaps my comments are angerful and go too far, perhaps I don't care and feel justified in my opinion.
I agree with the comments made by Sandi and other philes. I was lucky enough to see ADH and experienced disrespectful fans on a Saturday night. They weren't ashamed to shove me in the back so they could get at the front to take photos of Gillian, and crowded her so much she nearly tripped down the steps. They were obsessed with her celebrity status and obviously didn't understand that they were crossing the line and making Gillian feel uncomfortable. And to hit her on the head with a programme! Disgraceful. Like Sandi (and many of you) I was there to see Gillian perform live on stage and that was definitely the highlight for me, after seeing such selfish and embarrassing behaviour at the stage door.
Sandi, I do hope you get to see the play again and have a more pleasant stage door experience xx.
Ugh! Stories like this is exactly why I fear that stage door will be a completely uncomfortable experience. I'll be seeing the play in about a month, but I'd rather skip the stage door than be a part of something like that.
Perhaps we need to organise some kind of Phile Police force who can tell people to calm down and behave like normal people ;)
Thanks to meeting some new friends online I am now going to see the play on Friday. If anyone annoys me and is disrespectful to Gillian or any decent person there, I WILL DAMN WELL TELL THEM TO BEHAVE! Stupid imbecilles just want to spoil it for the rest of us! It's sickening!